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REBUILDING TRUST
Why I Wrote This Book
We wrote this book for couples who are trying to stay together after betrayal has shattered the trust in the relationship. Although many relationships end after one partner betrays another, not all of them do. This book is for those looking to find a way through the pain of betrayal to a trusting relationship.
From A Portion of Rebuildng Trust
Even as we write this book, we realize that no one who doesn’t work in the same field that we do truly wants to be in a place where they need to read it. If you are here, and are not a coach or counselor, we assume that you have been affected by infidelity in one way or another and are likely in a great deal o emotional pain. For that, we are truly sorry. Perhaps you are someone who has engaged in infidelity-related behavior and are trying to understand what you can do to help your partner heal. Or maybe you are someone who has found out about your partner’s betrayal and are trying to find a way to put the pieces of your life back together. Whatever your circumstances, we want to welcome you and to tell you that we are truly sorry for what you are going through. We also want to say that we are happy you picked up this book because we believe that it contains the help that you need in order to begin to rebuild trust in your relationship. Although the tools and advice offered here are in no way meant to replace professional therapy or coaching, the methods we describe have brought success to many couples wishing to rebuild their relationship in the aftermath of betrayal. If you are a coach or counselor reading this, we hope that the information contained in these pages will equip you with the knowledge you need to help your clients that are struggling to rebuild trust after betrayal.
MENDING AFTER BETRAYAL
Why I Wrote This Book
The idea for this book and workbook came to me by way of my daily work with individuals and couples attempting to heal their relationships, and themselves, from the devastating effects of infidelity and addiction. I have designed it for anyone who has been wounded by the different forms of infidelity and/or has suffered the negative effects of being partnered with someone who is intimacy avoidant.
From A Portion of The Unbound Man
You may have hear the cliché “time heals all wounds”. Not only is it generally unhelpful when people say this to a hurting person, but it is also mostly untrue. Although time can be helpful to the healing process, it’s not so much the aspect of time that’s important to healing but what a person chooses to do with that time. By reading this book, you have chosen to be productive with your time. Whether staying in your relationship is feasible or not, it’s important that you recognize how crucial it is to give time and attention to your own recovery. The fact that you have decided to dedicate your time to this book and workbook tells me that you are ready to take the first courageous steps towards your own healing and recovery.
Recovering from betrayal is a tricky business. The process is not linear, and the length of time it takes varies from person to person. Recovery doesn’t happen magically, either. It takes focus. It takes time. It takes work. If you are a wounded partner wishing to regain some normalcy in your life after the discovery of betrayal, in any form, then this book is for you.
MENDING AFTER BETRAYAL
Why I Wrote This Book
The idea for this book and workbook came to me by way of my daily work with individuals and couples attempting to heal their relationships, and themselves, from the devastating effects of infidelity and addiction. I have designed it for anyone who has been wounded by the different forms of infidelity and/or has suffered the negative effects of being partnered with someone who is intimacy avoidant.
From A Portion of The Unbound Man
If you picked up this book not so much as a trauma survivor but rather as a loved one of a male that you care about who has experienced trauma, I welcome you along, too. You will be making a major contribution to the life of that man or boy in your life just by handing them this book. You can let him know that if and when he chooses to share what he gained from reading it, you’ll be right there to listen and support him.
And if you decide to read the book yourself, my hope is that what you learn about men and trauma will help you better understand the man you love and what he may be going through. Of course, it will be helpful for you to keep in mind that this is a book written more as a conversation from one guy (me) to hundreds or thousands of other guys. That’s the channel you’ll be tuning into. At times it may sound really different from your own experience, perspective and understanding. It’s my intention to write a book for and about men and their struggles with trauma because while there may be a large number of written resources for women facing trauma, the unfortunate reality is that there are very few similar resources for men. I’m hoping to help fill that void.
If you have picked up this book because you’re a professional caregiver who offers therapeutic guidance and support to men, I welcome you to the conversation as well. As a male trauma survivor, I’ve got a lot to say. I hope it will prove useful to you.
